I WANT TO KICK HIS ASS!!!

Why is it that men always think that if they put a ring on it and or you have their baby that they are now free to be the true ass hole they always intended to be. They think that because you are soooo busy raising their baby that all your senses have died along with your instincts or should I say the ones that connect them to you. They somehow think that it is all attached to the baby so it now gives them a free pass to act the fool and put them in line for a proper ass kicking or a near death experience courtesy you.

Don't they realize that we were born to multitask and that eventually they WILL get caught out in their stupidity. How come they didn't learn that in their little man manual alongside the bit where they are pretending to hear you or nodding an act interested.

I am so fed up to the back teeth with this nonsense. How did our mothers do it. How did they just get on with the process of raising a family with a man essentially under foot. I say under foot because he is there, and he may be bring in some money but if he's not helping around the house or helping with the day to day routine of the child then what is his fockin purpose. OH I know they think they helping when after a LONG day running after a baby (alone) and you finally get that child to bed and you think you now have an hour or two to yourself before it all starts all over again, here he comes now looking all sheepish and thinks he all cute, trying to rub on you when all you want is to be able to eat something uninterrupted and have a bath and breathe.

Sex has now turned into a chore, as looked forward to as washing dishes or cleaning the toilet. I know this sounds really bad but its true. I use to really enjoy sex but now who has the energy. Its now under the just because label. I know for a fact that I ain't the only woman feeling this way because I spoke to couple others and its all the same. Maybe if he helped to cut the work in half I might find the energy to look sheepish too but right now it to hell with the sheep.

Mom's always on about choosing your battles but the choices are getting slimmer and slimmer with the little one always there to pick up the tensions so what do you do? You shut your mouth for the child's sake an move along when what you really want to do is curse his ass out or hit him with a flippin POT but I digress.

I was talking about the emerging asshole. The lies they tell to avoid everything I just mentioned. The lies they tell about a friend in need of a shoulder because he's going threw a bad patch or saying they are working late when they are really just staying back to drink with friends and come home late smelling of smoke form the cigarettes that he says he's not smoking to then wake you form a sound tired sleep because guess what? Its toilet time. WDH! I still have to wake up early with the baby while he sleeps in from a hangover but don't worry, me and the baby will be banging every pot and door and playing with the noisiest toys till IT emerges. YES. I have been reduced to being passive aggressive. What I really wanted to do is fill a bucket of water and throw it over him. in. Breathe. It can't be done because then MY bed would be wet and I would have to find a way to dry it while he flounces off for a sulk. Why did I get Married.

My Honest Take on The Kim Kardashian Debacle

I have been resisting this notion about myself for the longest time but I think it's time I come out of the closet and just admit it.

I Am. *Sigh, A KARDASHIAN Fan. There I said it.

I am not the kind of fan that loves everything that they say and do because I don't but they certainly have my attention. I am wrapped up in their lives and I am always curious as to what they are up to and what they are going to say or do next.

I am in love with Khloe an Lamar. Their love is addictive to watch and it somehow gives the rest of us out there hope that we too can find love like that. Which leads me smoothly into the reason I am writing this. The Kim debacle.

Like everyone else out there I to have an opinion on the fall out. See I saw that coming. Not so soon but coming all the same. NO! I do not think it was fake or that it was a money thing but I do think that Kim got carried away, competitive, silly green eyed. Human.

Let me explain. Kim has said how many times that she missed having someone. That she wanted to be married and have babies by 30. She has been watching hers sisters have what she wants for some time now and wondering when will it be her turn. Instead of being grateful for what she has she somehow got it into her head that she is the lead Kardashian so she should be more than capable of getting herself a man, any man and some babies.

When Khloe was getting married she kept saying "It should be me, It should be me" she might have been trying to play it off like it was just a joke but she wasn't. I am not saying she wished her sister ill will but she was jel jel. Said It. She was talking smack about him being way too tall. So how did Kris get a look in? And not her type. I was like, huh? She ain't choose no man for you honey, she chose her man for herself and dont get me started on the Kourtney Mason issue. She has had baby on the brain since Kourt popped that little boy out. She has seen how Kourt has managed to keep her life going without having to go the barefoot an pregnant route so she sees how and that it works and is ready to have a go. Who could blame her really but she has to understand that you can't manufacture what the other girls have. She has to be patient, she has to be selective. You cant just spin around in a circle of men and point and say "Him, he will do" and take off running. Thats crazy. I think thats what she did and on realizing that she had made a mistake, a very expensive mistake decided to cut her loses before it got even more expensive and is picking up alot of flack for it. Honestly, I don't think that dude was right for her anyway.

You see as fabulous as Kim's life is. As successful as she is. As beautiful as she is. She still craves more and while that's not a bad thing. Its coming across like her inner voice is saying. I am the one that brought the fame. I am the lead K so how come they have it all when in truth and fact it is where it need to be right now. She may not want to feel this way but it seeps out of her. See that's what happens when you have your life recorded and you show it for all to see. We SEE!

I ain't mad at you girl. You made a mistake. One day your prince will come and I hope when he does you have the strength to stick by him because marriage and babies ain't easy. I know. It puts you to the test so make sure you have a nice solid foundation before you go galloping into the sunset with some dude. You ain't Elizabeth Taylor. God rest her soul, nor do you want to be so chill. He comin.......

Nursery Woes

I am sitting here with a heavy heart this morning. My little one has just started nursery and the first 2 weeks he seemed to be having a wonderful time then the last two day descended into despair.

He was doing fine but ended up with a terrible flue because; and I fully blame the teachers. He was doing what they call water play and got his pants and socks went and they didn't change him all day even though I told them that he had a full change of clothes in his bag. He ended up with 2 days of raging fever. 39.7c. He is still couching and is full of mucus and this is almost 2 weeks later. He has never been ill for more that 3 days so you can understand my worry and feeling furious.

I know that I have to learn how to let go and trust but this is certainly not helping my cause.

Father And Daughter Gone Wrong

I was surfing the telly when I came across Super Nanny and stopped. After all we can all do with some tips on child rearing from time to time. They were dealing with this couple that had 4 kids. 1 girl and 3 boys. The father was patient and loving and super over protective of the boys but when it came to his 13 year old daughter he was impatient, angry and down right hostile. I felt sad and confused for her and as I got further into it I could not see a reason for him to be acting this way.

She was the typical teen with the usual lack of interest in chores and homework etc and as usual they tell a few lies as we all do to cover. Yes, she stopped calling him dad and now called him Joe and was sometimes rude to him but it certainly looked like a defense mechanism. What her father got from this was that she was she was mean, lazy, untrustworthy and in his own words "a pathological liar" and therefore not worthy of his time so he cut her off. He stopped speaking to her. No hellos when he came home from work. No how was your day. The only words he had for her was laced with whips, digs and hard dry sarcasm.

I watched on in horror wondering if perhaps the child was not his but she was and Super Nanny was on him trying to get him to make that change but he fought her at every turn with excuse after excuse about needing time to make a change. His biggest resistance unfolding with his 13 year old daughter standing right in front of him, guard down asking him to acknowledge her and love her like the rest of her siblings. His response was to mock her. It would have been like receiving a kick to the gut. (I wept)

I don't know if men understand that they are the FIRST man in their daughters life and that he is the example and her reference point when it comes to choosing a partner later on. He is the blue print so the way he treats her AND her mother is what is in her mental library.

I cringed watching this thing unfold before my eyes because I knew that her choices later on were going to be bad and it would probably be a long road to her choosing a man that would treat her right if HE her father chose not to correct his behavior. So many times we look around us wondering "Why does she allow herself to be treated this way." This is why.

You cant bully or shout your child into what or who you want them to be. Instead listen. You might get a better picture of who they are now and a peak into who they are going to be.